Sex: Am I Normal?
When it comes to sexuality, I have a lot of “hot botton” issues. Rape. GRRRRR. Homophobia. GRRRRRRRRRR. Government intrusion in the bedroom. GRRRRRRR. Ignoring the clitoris both during individual sex encounters and as a societal understanding of “sex”. GRRRRRRRRRRR. People who teach their children incorrect names for their genitals- “who-ha” and “down there”. GRRRRRR.
But one of my biggest sexuality hot bottons that I don’t explicitly talk about often yet manages to work its way into every single one of my college workshops and in-home parties is the concept of being judgmental vs. compassionate.
I get so pissed at how quickly people judge other people about sex. So many “ewwws” and “that’s weirds”. About women who have had an abortion. About men who are uncircumcised. About couples who swing. About strippers. About people who are gender queer. If you identify in any way or have had experiences that in any way are outside of the white/hetero/married/missionary mainstream, people are judgmental. I see it 100 times a day as a sexologist. And what bugs me most about it is that EVERYONE has something about themselves sexually that they are insecure about, embarrassed about, ashamed about, etc., and yet they judge the insecurities of others.
And so all of my workshops have an empathy building component to work on increasing compassion and decreasing judgment on the given topic.
Then I decided to develop a workshop built entirely around the subject and so far people are loving it! People are loving it so much I have decided to develop a similar in-home party.
Check out this link to see the video promo:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YS7Lw9AY7hQ
It’s called “Sex: Am I Normal”, and the in-home party version is called “Phone Sex 101” (because people use their cell phones to vote- get it?) Phone Sex 101 is now officially available for bookings!
** Note I’ve changed my party rates for 2010. Mon-Thurs nights have been lowered to $15 per peson, and Fri-Sat have been raised to $25 per person. You can get a FREE party if you’d like to be filmed, as this group did, for my website and youtube. I still need Pole Dancing 101 and Sex Shop 101 to be filmed. Let me know if you’re interested!
Contact sexologist Jill McDevitt:
www.facebook.com/JillAtFeminique
