A Day in the Life of a Sexologist

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It’s fun to look back πŸŽˆπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚ “Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.” #1stbirthday #21stbirthday #29thbirthday #aging #growingolder #anothertriparoundthesun

It’s fun to look back πŸŽˆπŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‚ “Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.” #1stbirthday #21stbirthday #29thbirthday #aging #growingolder #anothertriparoundthesun

29 and feeling fine! πŸŽ‰πŸŽˆπŸŽ‚ #birthdayselfie #29thbirthday

29 and feeling fine! πŸŽ‰πŸŽˆπŸŽ‚ #birthdayselfie #29thbirthday

Aug 9
Another day, another guy asking to book my fellatio 101 class thinking that means I will suck his dick. #sexologistproblems

Another day, another guy asking to book my fellatio 101 class thinking that means I will suck his dick. #sexologistproblems

Aug 7
#blueballs. Fun fact 1: blue balls is just #vasocongestion. It goes away quickly as the blood drains from the genitals to the rest of the body. Fun fact 2: vulva-bearers get vasocongestion too (blue labia?). Fun fact 3: vulva vasocongestion is what led to the invention of the vibrator, as a medical device, to treat what they thought was a disease. Really it was just blue labia from the lack of clit loving. Sad times. #sexed #sexfacts #sexedteacher #sexedprops

#blueballs. Fun fact 1: blue balls is just #vasocongestion. It goes away quickly as the blood drains from the genitals to the rest of the body. Fun fact 2: vulva-bearers get vasocongestion too (blue labia?). Fun fact 3: vulva vasocongestion is what led to the invention of the vibrator, as a medical device, to treat what they thought was a disease. Really it was just blue labia from the lack of clit loving. Sad times. #sexed #sexfacts #sexedteacher #sexedprops

Aug 6

Sex Ed Road Trip; new tour dates and cities

I’m a better sexologist than I am speaking tour planner, but for a non-famous person, and without the help of an agent or some other professional skilled at these things, I’m pretty happy with how my Sex Ed Road Trip is shaping up.

That said, there are still some huge gaps I’d really like to have filled, so I arranged the schedule around a bit. In between Philadelphia and my Female Orgasm 101 party in New Orleans, I’m wide open. So I could take a southern route and hit Charlotte, Raleigh, and Atlanta, or go west, and pass Nashville, TN, and Jackson, MI. I have multiple route options depending on who books me first, and where you live. So book me first! I also added Austin, TX, Santa Fe, NM, Chicago, IL, that is of course unless someone in San Antonio, Albuquerque, or Cincinnati books me first and changes my route.

There is a method to my madness.

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Here’s a map. If where you live is covered in red, I *may* take a route by your house, and therefore you should email me at jill@thesexologist.org to book an in-home party and/or college workshop before someone else does and takes me on a different direction that day, not by your house. Or if you’re more of a list person, here’s a list with all the possible cities I’ll pass and the dates.

Why should you care?

Because sex ed is important! And fun! And having a sexologist come speak at your school is super cool and having a sexologist come speaking in your living room is even cooler! Plus, it’s super cheap. Everyone I do sex ed with along Sex Ed Road Trip cost shares in the travel expenses, making the cost to bring me out approximately $20-30 per person instead of the $200-$300 per person it might cost to bring me out independently of the speaking tour, where you’d bear the full cost of my airfare/hotel/car rental/speaking fee yourself. Yes, this is SOCIALIZED SEX EDUCATION! Take advantage of it!

Female Orgasm 101 is the most popular pick so far, but for your party, we could also do Fellatio 101, Kama Sutra Positions 101, a fun sex trivia game, or a sex toy demo. For your school, we can do everyone’s fav “Sex: Am I Normal?”. I also have topics ranging from pleasure, slut-shaming, sex education, and safer sex, so let’s do this! Email jill@thesexologist.org to get the ball rolling!

All events during Sex Ed Road Trip must be finalized by August 12, less than 1 week from today!

Aug 6

I accompanied someone to the police station to report a sexual assault: AN UPDATE

Nine months ago I wrote “I accompanied someone to the police station to report a sexual assault, and this is what happened" about the systematic mistreatment my friend experienced after being sexually assaulted, from many of her well meaning friends, to the police, the ER doctor, and even a rape crisis hotline we reached out to for help.

I have an update. The man has been charged with Unlawful Sexual Contact in the First Degree, Class D Felony, and Sexual Harassment in the First Degree; Misdemeanor, and this case is going to trial!

Today, my friend has bravely decided to make her story public. She started a blog about her journey and has asked me to share the following:

"I want to reach out to everyone. Shortly after the night of my assault, I wrote a facebook post explaining what I had gone through. The overwhelming amount of support was INCREDIBLE! I was so touched by all of the comments and private messages of love. I am going to ask you all for your support again. As of now, I have a court date set for Tuesday September 23rdΒ in Wilmington, Delaware. The trial will last 2-3 days, is with a grand jury and is open to the public. After much thought, I have decided that I want to invite ANYONE AND EVERYONE to attend. This is going to be a challenging and emotional time for me. I am going to be shaken. I am going to need all of the support I can get, whether it is a simple message or a physical presence. If you’d like to come to see what a grand jury trial is like, feel free! If you’d like to come to hear my story, please do! If you’d like to come to support, it would mean the world to me! I will post more information as I have it available.”

We know that only 8% of rapes are actually prosecuted, so the fact that this assault has gotten this far through the criminal justice system is sadly quite impressive. We also know that for cases that do reach this level, survivors often report that they found the courtroom experience to be humiliating, painful, and just as traumatic, or even more so, than the actual assault. For these reasons, I’m hoping you can support my friend at the open-to-the-public trial with your presence. 200,000 people read my original post about her terrible ordeal at the police station, and so many of you reached out, asking if there is anything you can do to help. This is something you can do to help.

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Aug 5
The shipment has arrived! #clitcream #andmoreclitcream

The shipment has arrived! #clitcream #andmoreclitcream

Aug 4

Sexologist color palette

I’m really excited to re-brand the Dr. Jill, Sexologist color scheme. As you can see from this screen shot of my website homepage and my logo, I’m currently using pink and brown.image

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I like pink and brown, but it’s left over from my Feminique days, when I was trying to create a certain pastel, feminine space and I am not trying to do that anymore.

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For the last year 1.5 years, under the Dr. Jill, Sexologist brand, I’ve been trying to do colorful and vibrant. Between the vibrators, sex-positive bumper stickers, and plush sex organs, I have been using vivid shades of blue, green, purple, orange, and pink so that whether it’s a table display or my website, the first thing one notices is that’s it’s colorful and attractive.

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But in that 1.5 year period, that’s as far as I got with my re-branding efforts, because when it comes to actually picking colors to brand beyond just “colorful”, I’m stuck. When it comes to my logo, and what colors to make my sex ed party brochures (which are also currently the pink and brown), the hyperlinks on my website, my blog, my table cloth for tabling events, the wall paint and office decor in my new home office, and so on, I can’t narrow it down to a color scheme.

I’m told I can only have two colors, or it’ll be too busy. But which two? Aqua and lime green? Purple and teal? Orange and navy blue? The last few months, as I’ve been trying to make this decision, every time I see a cluster of vibrant colors out in the world, whether it’s plastic cups in a dollar store, beach towels on the boardwalk, or flowers in the market, I take a picture to try to get a sense of what colors I like together. What I learned is that I like all of them.

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I finally decided on aqua and lime green, like a beach palette.

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That is until I saw hot pink and orange together, like a sunset palette.

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But wait, deep purple, aqua, and a hint of pink looks so nice too.

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I think I know what I like, until I see a different pair of colors together, and then I like those better. I can’t pick.

Must I have only two? I want all the colors! Check out this person I follow on Instagram for inspiration:

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Looking at this Instagram account is what I want the feel to be when coming across my brand. An element of yellow and purple here. An element of magenta and turquoise there, but when you take it all in together, you’d describe it as just…”colorful”. How does one achieve this with a two toned business logo without looking “busy”?

One thing I do know is I want the anchor color (is that a thing? I have no art background, just making stuff up)… to be white, as it currently is on my website. The splashes of color will come in the details, and, the logo. Here are some color combos my graphic designer put together of bright colors for my logo as an example of what could be.image

I love these color choices as a bunch, but when it’s just two paired together, it’s missing something for me. I want all the colors! I actually prefer it as it’s presented here, with 8 logos of all different colors Andy Warhol style, rather than picking just one.

I went to the paint store to help me make a decision, and posted here and on facebook seeking your feedback, which I got plenty of, but I came to the same conclusion. Any two of these colors you suggested look good together, and appeal to me, but I still find it lacking. All of them together, that’s what I really like. Even just scrolling up and down this post with all the vibrant images I posted makes me smile.

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Can someone help me brand “colorful”?

Aug 4
OMG! OMG! I am freaking out! Bad news:  The beloved, amazing, #1 bestselling and #1 most effective #clitcream on the market has been discontinued! Nooooo! The good news: I bought out the remaining stock. More good news: When my Hysteria line comes out, I am making my own clit cream and it shall be just as good or better! More bad news: Hysteria is not launching for months and months and this stock won’t last til then! Order yours while they last at www.thesexologist.org/store/p6/Clit_Cream.html #sadclitoris #why!?!?!?!

OMG! OMG! I am freaking out! Bad news: The beloved, amazing, #1 bestselling and #1 most effective #clitcream on the market has been discontinued! Nooooo! The good news: I bought out the remaining stock. More good news: When my Hysteria line comes out, I am making my own clit cream and it shall be just as good or better! More bad news: Hysteria is not launching for months and months and this stock won’t last til then! Order yours while they last at www.thesexologist.org/store/p6/Clit_Cream.html #sadclitoris #why!?!?!?!

Aug 4
Sexy parts of my job like traveling the country talking about sex, designing vibrators, and decorating a beautiful new home office with beautiful new colors require less sexy behind the scenes work like organizing a speaking schedule, organizing with manufacturers about launch dates, and cleaning. Today is one of those less sexy, behind the scenes days, but I still love it and I am so excited to start my day, and that’s when you know you’ve found your calling. #ilovemyjob #lifeistooshorttohateyourwork #sexologistlife #todolist #handwritten #postitnotes

Sexy parts of my job like traveling the country talking about sex, designing vibrators, and decorating a beautiful new home office with beautiful new colors require less sexy behind the scenes work like organizing a speaking schedule, organizing with manufacturers about launch dates, and cleaning. Today is one of those less sexy, behind the scenes days, but I still love it and I am so excited to start my day, and that’s when you know you’ve found your calling. #ilovemyjob #lifeistooshorttohateyourwork #sexologistlife #todolist #handwritten #postitnotes