May 2012
8 posts
Sexoholic Mode
I haven’t written in so long because I am in the midst of a HUGE bout of sexoholia. For those who are new here, let me explain. I sometimes get into what I call “sexoholic modes” where I have 10 million ideas and ambitions about how to take over the world with sex-positivism. I get sex business ideas. New sex product ideas. New sex book ideas. It’s being a sexologist on steroids, and I frankly...
Little Black Heart: Review
This month my product to try was a little vibrator that looks like a heart, appropriately called “Little Black Heart”. It is in the “Sex, Toys, and Rock ‘n Roll” line, promoted by rock star/Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew star, Phil Varone (who incidentally I’m friends with on facebook… nice guy).
It’s a tiny little bullet vibe set in a heart shaped piece of rubber, with nubbies facing the clitoris,...
Elles (the film)- Review
Being a sexologist has its perks. Actually, its 95% perks, and one of those perks is when folks in various sexuality related industries offer me free stuff in exchange for my expert opinion. This weekend, I was invited to see the French film “Elles”, directed by Małgorzata Szumowska and starring Juliette Binoche, which premiered a few month ago at the Toronto International Film Festival.
I knew...
50 Shades of Sh*t
It took me 3 ½ years to write my first book (which you can purchase here), called “Fighting the Crusade Against Sex: Being Sex- Positive in a Sex-Negative World”.
Now that it’s been out, I’m bored. I have had a number of other writing projects in my head, and now I’m putting pedal to the metal and I can not wait to get them out there! Its funny- I have all the books I’m writing in different word...
Episode 3 of My Reality Show!
To view episode 3 of my show, A Day in the Life of a Sexologist, click here or the photo above, which is a still from the episode.
Episode 3 features me fundraising for the Vagina Monologues at UPenn, and then reflecting on the time I acted in the play, moaning and faking orgasm. Despite my career choice, this still embarrasses me! The second segment is about my trip to the Dominican Republic,...
What A Real Man Looks Like
In our 4 years and 2 days together, I have never been more proud of Ryan Tyler, who reminds me everyday what true masculinity is.
Let me tell you about my weekend, and you’ll understand why:
On Friday, we celebrated our anniversary. I was thinking the whole time how much I LOVE him and that I feel so fortunate to have been able to enjoy four years with him in my life. We laugh ALL the time. I’ve...
Feminique's 4th Birthday!!
4 years ago today, I opened a sex shop in the suburbs of Philadelphia. I had NO idea what I was getting myself into, but it has brought me most of my life’s greatest joys. Today, she turns 4. My little sex shop is growing up so fast!
Help me celebrate this Saturday, May 5 at Feminique (104 N. Church St., West Chester, PA 19380). 4 years of vibrators. 4 years of sex-positive education....
What Day Is It?
I am so exhausted, I’m delirious. I don’t know what day it is. I don’t really remember what I’ve been so busy doing. There was a bunch of speaking events. Some parties. I think I went to a protest at some point. I was filmed. I was photographed. I ran Feminique all day, every day. I’m teaching Orgasm 101 tonight at the Philadelphia Institute for Individual,...
April 2012
8 posts
31 Senators Who Can Suck My C**t
Last night, the US Senate voted to pass the re-authorization of the Violence Against Women Act, which as the name suggestions, is about providing legal safety nets to women who are victims of violence. How could ANYONE not support such a thing? Human beings are being hurt, and there is an opportunity to say, hey, let’s help them get justice. Sounds reasonable.
But no. Lots of senators were...
The Doctorate, The Book, The Show: An Update
I haven’t written in a while. I just ended two busy and stressful weeks. The first was chaos with my car dying and frantically trying to buy a new one, and the second I worked 70+ hours. But there is some progress in a few areas that I’ve been writing about for awhile now, so I thought I’d give the updates.
The Doctorate:
I decided not to complete my Ph.D. in Human Sexuality at Widener back...
Episode 2 of My Reality Show!
Click here or the photo above to view episode 2 of my reality show, which is based on this blog, A Day in the Life of a Sexologist.
I really like this episode, because is shows the variety of shapes sexology takes- different venues like conferences, colleges, and the media- different jobs like education, empowerment, and advocacy.
Don’t forget new episodes air the 1st and 15th of every...
A Broke Sexologist
I’m having one of those weeks were I’m getting super frustrated about the double life. I wrote about the double life before; where very cool and glamorous things happen the same week, even the same day, that things happen that remind me that I’m still poor and not really at all glamorous.
So this week, I did two interviews with newspapers and got my 6th TV show offer, this time...
99 Days of Shopping Women-Owned Businesses Only
One of the 5 books I’m currently actively writing is about my personal experiment of shopping exclusively at woman-owned businesses for 99 days. I’m on day 8 and I hate life. The idea of doing this for 91 more days gives me anxiety. It’s truly an evil experiment because there are NO women owned businesses. Sure, there are women owned boutiques and knick knack shops, but no woman owned businesses...
Casting Call- Be on My Show!
Now that my little reality show is in full swing, I’m thinking long and hard about what direction I want it to go, what stories I want to tell, what I want people to know about me, Feminique, and sexology.
I’m also learning that while reality television is real, in that the events are unscripted and actually happening, you still have to plan things in advance. I can’t have cameras around 24/7 and...
Episode 1 of My Reality Show!
Click the above photo, or visit this link to see the first episode of my reality show! In this pilot episode, Feminique has a corset sale, I show a new client the antique vibrator museum, and I argue with PennDOT about their refusal to issue me a SEX DOC license plate.
I’m really happy with the way it turned out! I do need advertisers and sponsors to keep this project going, so if you...
"Teledildonics" is an Awesome Word!
Yesterday, I went to Washington D.C. for a conference called Momentum: Making Waves in Feminism, Sexuality, and Relationships. Cool things I learned/got out of the experience:
1. Teledildonics. This is an awesome word. Teledildonics. Teledildonics. These vibrators use the wii remote to control the vibrations your partner feels during phone sex via skype. How great would this be for long...
March 2012
8 posts
Sex, Magazines, and the American Prude
Dear Prudes,
I am SO over you!
Love, Jill
Sex, magazines, and prudery have been the theme of my life this week.
First, Elle magazine featured Jessica Simpson pregnant and nude on the cover, a la’ Demi Moore in Vanity Fair. Of course some prude complained to the manager of supermarket where it is sold, and it is now being hidden and/or sold in brown paper wrap.
Second, this advertisement...
Review: Couture Collection- Pink Inspire with...
When I received this month’s vibrator to test, called Pink Inspire with Attachments from the “Couture Collection” I was having a less than terrific day, but opening this box perked me up for sure. My first thought was that it looks very similar to my all time favorite vibrator, which is technically called My Mini Miracle Massager but I refer to it as “The Jackhammer” (or sometimes 67 because that...
When Doctors Lie About Sexual Health
Just yesterday, I read a report from a study that said that pharmacists misinformed (read… LIED TO) 17 year old girls about emergency contraceptives.
Emergency contraceptives, which significantly reduce the risk of pregnancy when taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex, sex in which the birth control method failed, or non consensual sex, is available without a prescription to anyone 17 years of...
Open to the Pubic Sexuality Workshops
A little story about not giving up:
When I graduated college with my bachelor’s degree, I was frantically applying to any job that even remotely pertained to sexuality. I wanted to be a part of ANYTHING sexuality related so bad, that I was willing to sweep the floors in a HIV testing clinic, answer phones at a teen pregnancy outreach- ANYTHING. I sent resumes to organizations that weren’t...
The War on Women
In the past I’ve been hesitant to use the expression “the war on women” because while I believe it exists, such extreme rhetoric makes middle of the road people turned off to the cause. I felt it was counter productive in the battle for gender equality. But in light of the recent deliberate and systematic series of attacks by the Republican party, there is unfortunately no other way to describe...
Promo For My New Reality Show!!!
This blog will now officially be turned into a reality show! Check out the promo for the series, called “A Day in the Life of a Sexologist”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p2jcqSnOM28
After five different production companies in the past 12 months found one of my videos on youtube and then offered me a reality show deal that ended up falling through, I decided to do it myself. This works out...
A Sexologist in the Dominican Republic
You know I work hard, and I like to play hard every now and then. And that is what I did this week during my tropical vacation in the Dominican Republic. It was an action packed trip of swimming with dolphins, horseback riding, zip lining, cliff jumping, snorkeling, Pina Colada drinking, dancing, and pool lounging. It was just what the doctor ordered.
But, on this trip, it was more than a...
The People You Meet in a Sex Shop
Here’s how it came to be that I spent my Saturday night dancing in a church basement:
A few weeks after my first book came out (called “Fighting the Crusade Against Sex” which you can purchase here… ahem) I received a phone call. It was a man who said he had bought a copy on a whim, read it, and got this suspicion that we had grown up in the same town. He said the way I described and...
February 2012
3 posts
Review: Chic Hide-A-Vibe
This month I tested Chic Hide-A-Vibe. This is something that I would absolutely sell at Feminique. In fact, this toy may be the third after L’Amour and the Jackhammer to make it to Feminique’s shelves after I got to try it.
Pros:
- It’s simple and well, chic. I like the slim line design. It’s small enough that if you are more of a clitoral gal, such as I, it’s still ergonomic for clit...
Orgasms and the Best Boyfriend EVER!
I spent all day two days ago becoming emotionally invested in the responses to my Joe Paterno blog, and all day yesterday becoming emotionally invested in the responses to my facebook post about a local bar that had the sign “I like my beer like I like my violence: domestic”. I have a lot of anger and I need to take a break. So, I’d like to switch gears to two happy and exciting things that...
Joe Paterno: Because Somebody Had to Say It
TRIGGER WARNING:
This is a long, angry and emotionally charged post containing graphic content regarding rape, sexual violence, and abuse of children.
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I’ve been stewing about writing this post for awhile now. I’ve debated about if I wanted to say it. And how I would say it. I’ve given it a lot of contemplation and thought.
I’m disgusted with Joe Paterno and...
January 2012
5 posts
Review: L'Amour 8 Speed Petal
This month I had the pleasure of testing l’Amour: 8 Speed Petal.
I think this is nice toy! Ryan (haha I actually typed Tyler and then deleted it. I fogot that his real name has been outed…) took one look at it, felt it for a second, and said “oh yeah, that’ll do it for you”. I think it’s so funny that every month when I receive my free sex toy to try, he can...
S*** People Say to Sexologists (video)
check out my version of the “shit people say” video. All shit people have actually said to me…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nsq34tOjX5c
Contact sexologit Jill McDevitt:
www.thesexologist.org
www.facebook.com/JillAtFeminique
jill@thesexologist.org
Tyler's Real Name: The Big Reveal
If you have been following along with A Day in the Life of a Sexologist from the beginning, you know that for everyone I write about except me (my real name is Jill… haha) I use pseudonyms. Tyler’s real name isn’t Tyler. This is because at first I didn’t know how the blog would be received and I didn’t want to throw my loved ones under the bus (it turns out it is well received!), I didn’t know how...
Sex: Am I Normal?
When it comes to sexuality, I have a lot of “hot botton” issues. Rape. GRRRRR. Homophobia. GRRRRRRRRRR. Government intrusion in the bedroom. GRRRRRRR. Ignoring the clitoris both during individual sex encounters and as a societal understanding of “sex”. GRRRRRRRRRRR. People who teach their children incorrect names for their genitals- “who-ha” and “down...
Best of 2011- Year In Review
2011 in REVIEW- A SUMMARY
Ah, 2011. It was a year that started with filming a pilot episode of a TV reality show about my sexology career and ended with filming a casting video for Playboy. With a total of 5 unsolicited calls from television producers that all ended up falling through, 2011 was the year of being *almost* famous. What else happened this year? I published a book, created a museum...
December 2011
8 posts
Hiring A Jill Fan
I’ve been self-employed my entire adult life. Feminique is my baby. I definitely birthed her, and like a good mother, I have done everything for her myself top to bottom. I’m the manual laborer (clean the toilet, shovel the sidewalk), I’m the web designer, the marketing rep, the graphic designer, the sales associate, the product tester (this one’s not a bad gig…), the...
Fornicators In My Storage Closet
I had just finished writing a different blog post yesterday when I had to stop to post a photo with the following caption to facebook:
If you come into my store, steal one of my condoms, and fuck in my storage closet, I will catch you, throw you out, take a picture of you running away, and post it on facebook.
This is my life.
I was pissed. I didn’t like them from the beginning, and was going to...
Review: Extreme Pure Gold Super Slim Remote Bullet
This month I tried Extreme Pure Gold- Super Slim Remote Bullet 24 Karat (in life it looks like yellow gold, not sure why the photo looks silver). Here’s my review:
Pros:
Remote Control Powered. This is a plus for a lot of people- I’m always being asked if I carry vibes with remotes.
Easy Off Switch. This vibe has 10 speeds, and it’s always nice to be able to just turn it off without having to...
Living A Double Life
This is my life. And sometimes I think it’s a double life. It’s sometimes glamorous and exciting and one of a kind, and yet at the same time it’s so terribly ordinary that it is hard to believe all of these things are happening to the same person.
Example.
14 strangers in the past week or so have remarked that I’m going to be famous. There were comments like “sign my book, it’ll be worth something...
Juicy What?
Just a few conversations I’ve had the past day or so.
Context: Walking around Rose Tree Park with Tyler and my Grandparents looking at the Christmas light display.
Gram: did you know there is a line of clothing called juicy clitoris? Me: I think you mean juicy couture…
Thoughts: 1. I love my family 2. As others have remarked, this would make a great name for my sex toy line I’m designing...
SEX DOC license plate DENIED
The Crusade Against Sex wages on. I know it’s a little hasty because I don’t have my doctorate quite yet, but I wanted to order SEX DOC vanity plates for my car before someone else got to them. However, the Pennsylvania Department of Motor Vehicles gave me a red pen DENIED. Of course they did. This is my life. Could erotophobia be to blame? I called to find out the reason and what the appeal...
250 Sexologists, 5 Producers, 2 Dancers, And A...
I came back from West Virgina on Tuesday, so the remainder of the week was short. Short, but still busy.
Wednesday: On Wednesday I worked in Feminique for a few hours, but left early to attend Tyler’s office holiday party. This year was interesting. First, we were the only two dancing. And as we are COMPLETELY rocking out on an empty dance floor (in a mini dress, of course), I get to thinking. I...
A Sexologist in West Virginia
And Washington D.C, and Maryland, and New Jersey…
The past week and a half (or has it been two weeks, I’ve been so batty I have lost count) have been, shall we say, busy. I have been the traveling sexologist. I’ve been in 7 states in the past 4 days.
I did a Fellatio 101 party for a group of women in D.C who found me on youtube. I did a Female Orgasm workshop at The College of New Jersey which...
November 2011
7 posts
Female Genital Mutilation and Other Things I've...
It’s been a crazy week and it’s only getting crazier. I have 11 scheduled events over 14 days. One of the days “off” was Thanksgiving (I cooked for 8 hours, I hardly call that “off”) and the other two days I deliberately took off after my last blog post and everyone yelled at me that I needed a vacation. I agreed and Tyler and I have long weekend plans in West Virginia. We’re leaving this...
Review: Amour- Be Mine Cuddle Massage Kit
This month I got to try “Amour- Be Mine Cuddle Massage Kit”. It includes a red small clitoral vibe with four interchangeable heads, a bottle of pheromone infused massage oil, and a teddy bear, all in a heart-covered box. It’s not a bad little pack if you need a romantic gift in a pinch.
I’ll review each piece individually:
The Massage Oil: This was probably the highlight of the kit. The massage...
The Doctorate, The Book, The Biz: An Update
The Doctorate:
Last you heard from me, I was freaking out about being a “failure”, not knowing if I should take my doctoral comprehensive exam or not. I decided to not after talking with faculty at school. If I was pissed at the process and “ivory tower bullshit” before, I’m livid now. I called to seek advice about whether I should postpone the test, and the response I got was “Well, as someone...
Tyler
Sometimes it’s easier to bitch and complain than it is to recognize the good things, so I’m taking a moment to recognize a good thing- Tyler.
One year ago today he moved into my, now our, apartment, and every single day things between us are better and better. Honestly. Our relationship is unrecognizable as the thing that existed a few years ago.
We always have such interesting conversations,...
Failure
People will often ask how I’ve done it. How do you start a company at 21 while also being a graduate student and publishing a book? I give half-assed responses like “Oh, just a lot of hard work”. I don’t want to give the real answer because I would never wish anyone else to follow in my unhealthy footsteps. The real answer is “Because I’m obscenely competitive, neurotically over-achieving, and...
My Book Celebration :)
So this past Sunday, November 6, 2011 was a big deal for me. Not just because it was National Orgasm Day, but because I got to check a BIG item off my bucket list- publish my memoir!
It took me 3 ½ years to write the book, but really I’ve wanted to be published my entire life- even as a young child. So it was literally a dream come true for me, and after I got in bed exhausted after an...
Official Press Release for "Fighting the Crusade...
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Memoir on Opening of West Chester Sex Shop to Launch on National Orgasm Day
West Chester, PA.: In 2008, Jill McDevitt opened her feminist sex shop (the only sex shop in the country owned by a degreed sexologist) in West Chester, PA. The resulting firestorm not only rocked the community, it made national news. Three years later McDevitt, now 26, has written the story of...
Too Sexy For Halloween?
Halloween makes me sad. Every year I start out excited for a night of fun and dancing in sexy and creative costumes, and every year I am instead confronted with the negative socio-sexual quandaries that plague our world.
Tyler and I went naked. Not figuratively. Literally.
I thought it was very clever and I thought we looked hot! On night one, at first, everyone thought so too! We were the...
October 2011
8 posts
Page 69
A phone conversation with my grandmother that took place last night…
Gram: Can you write something special in my copy of your book at your book signing party? Me: Of course! I talk about you in my book so of course I’ll write something special for you. Gram: Ooh! What page am I on? 69? I want to be on page 69
Contact sexologist Jill McDevitt:
jill@thesexologist.org
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Clit Injury and Other Old News
I have been so bad at blogging lately. Part of it is being busy. Part of it is that interesting things happen so quickly that by the time I’m about to blog about it something interesting happens that occupies my time and mind.
I’m so far behind to tell the stories now makes them lose their pizzazz. Old news. I’ve done two parties since I last blogged; one called “Sex: Am I Normal” and one called...