January 2012
5 posts
Review: L'Amour 8 Speed Petal
This month I had the pleasure of testing l’Amour: 8 Speed Petal.
I think this is nice toy! Ryan (haha I actually typed Tyler and then deleted it. I fogot that his real name has been outed…) took one look at it, felt it for a second, and said “oh yeah, that’ll do it for you”. I think it’s so funny that every month when I receive my free sex toy to try, he can...
S*** People Say to Sexologists (video)
check out my version of the “shit people say” video. All shit people have actually said to me…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nsq34tOjX5c
Contact sexologit Jill McDevitt:
www.thesexologist.org
www.facebook.com/JillAtFeminique
jill@thesexologist.org
Tyler's Real Name: The Big Reveal
If you have been following along with A Day in the Life of a Sexologist from the beginning, you know that for everyone I write about except me (my real name is Jill… haha) I use pseudonyms. Tyler’s real name isn’t Tyler. This is because at first I didn’t know how the blog would be received and I didn’t want to throw my loved ones under the bus (it turns out it is well received!), I didn’t know how...
Sex: Am I Normal?
When it comes to sexuality, I have a lot of “hot botton” issues. Rape. GRRRRR. Homophobia. GRRRRRRRRRR. Government intrusion in the bedroom. GRRRRRRR. Ignoring the clitoris both during individual sex encounters and as a societal understanding of “sex”. GRRRRRRRRRRR. People who teach their children incorrect names for their genitals- “who-ha” and “down...
Best of 2011- Year In Review
2011 in REVIEW- A SUMMARY
Ah, 2011. It was a year that started with filming a pilot episode of a TV reality show about my sexology career and ended with filming a casting video for Playboy. With a total of 5 unsolicited calls from television producers that all ended up falling through, 2011 was the year of being *almost* famous. What else happened this year? I published a book, created a museum...
December 2011
8 posts
Hiring A Jill Fan
I’ve been self-employed my entire adult life. Feminique is my baby. I definitely birthed her, and like a good mother, I have done everything for her myself top to bottom. I’m the manual laborer (clean the toilet, shovel the sidewalk), I’m the web designer, the marketing rep, the graphic designer, the sales associate, the product tester (this one’s not a bad gig…), the...
Fornicators In My Storage Closet
I had just finished writing a different blog post yesterday when I had to stop to post a photo with the following caption to facebook:
If you come into my store, steal one of my condoms, and fuck in my storage closet, I will catch you, throw you out, take a picture of you running away, and post it on facebook.
This is my life.
I was pissed. I didn’t like them from the beginning, and was going to...
Review: Extreme Pure Gold Super Slim Remote Bullet
This month I tried Extreme Pure Gold- Super Slim Remote Bullet 24 Karat (in life it looks like yellow gold, not sure why the photo looks silver). Here’s my review:
Pros:
Remote Control Powered. This is a plus for a lot of people- I’m always being asked if I carry vibes with remotes.
Easy Off Switch. This vibe has 10 speeds, and it’s always nice to be able to just turn it off without having to...
Living A Double Life
This is my life. And sometimes I think it’s a double life. It’s sometimes glamorous and exciting and one of a kind, and yet at the same time it’s so terribly ordinary that it is hard to believe all of these things are happening to the same person.
Example.
14 strangers in the past week or so have remarked that I’m going to be famous. There were comments like “sign my book, it’ll be worth something...
Juicy What?
Just a few conversations I’ve had the past day or so.
Context: Walking around Rose Tree Park with Tyler and my Grandparents looking at the Christmas light display.
Gram: did you know there is a line of clothing called juicy clitoris? Me: I think you mean juicy couture…
Thoughts: 1. I love my family 2. As others have remarked, this would make a great name for my sex toy line I’m...
SEX DOC license plate DENIED
The Crusade Against Sex wages on. I know it’s a little hasty because I don’t have my doctorate quite yet, but I wanted to order SEX DOC vanity plates for my car before someone else got to them. However, the Pennsylvania Department of Motor Vehicles gave me a red pen DENIED. Of course they did. This is my life. Could erotophobia be to blame? I called to find out the reason and what the appeal...
250 Sexologists, 5 Producers, 2 Dancers, And A...
I came back from West Virgina on Tuesday, so the remainder of the week was short. Short, but still busy.
Wednesday: On Wednesday I worked in Feminique for a few hours, but left early to attend Tyler’s office holiday party. This year was interesting. First, we were the only two dancing. And as we are COMPLETELY rocking out on an empty dance floor (in a mini dress, of course), I get to thinking. I...
A Sexologist in West Virginia
And Washington D.C, and Maryland, and New Jersey…
The past week and a half (or has it been two weeks, I’ve been so batty I have lost count) have been, shall we say, busy. I have been the traveling sexologist. I’ve been in 7 states in the past 4 days.
I did a Fellatio 101 party for a group of women in D.C who found me on youtube. I did a Female Orgasm workshop at The College of New Jersey which...
November 2011
7 posts
Female Genital Mutilation and Other Things I've...
It’s been a crazy week and it’s only getting crazier. I have 11 scheduled events over 14 days. One of the days “off” was Thanksgiving (I cooked for 8 hours, I hardly call that “off”) and the other two days I deliberately took off after my last blog post and everyone yelled at me that I needed a vacation. I agreed and Tyler and I have long weekend plans in West Virginia. We’re leaving this...
Review: Amour- Be Mine Cuddle Massage Kit
This month I got to try “Amour- Be Mine Cuddle Massage Kit”. It includes a red small clitoral vibe with four interchangeable heads, a bottle of pheromone infused massage oil, and a teddy bear, all in a heart-covered box. It’s not a bad little pack if you need a romantic gift in a pinch.
I’ll review each piece individually:
The Massage Oil: This was probably the highlight of the kit. The massage...
The Doctorate, The Book, The Biz: An Update
The Doctorate:
Last you heard from me, I was freaking out about being a “failure”, not knowing if I should take my doctoral comprehensive exam or not. I decided to not after talking with faculty at school. If I was pissed at the process and “ivory tower bullshit” before, I’m livid now. I called to seek advice about whether I should postpone the test, and the response I got was “Well, as someone...
Tyler
Sometimes it’s easier to bitch and complain than it is to recognize the good things, so I’m taking a moment to recognize a good thing- Tyler.
One year ago today he moved into my, now our, apartment, and every single day things between us are better and better. Honestly. Our relationship is unrecognizable as the thing that existed a few years ago.
We always have such interesting conversations,...
Failure
People will often ask how I’ve done it. How do you start a company at 21 while also being a graduate student and publishing a book? I give half-assed responses like “Oh, just a lot of hard work”. I don’t want to give the real answer because I would never wish anyone else to follow in my unhealthy footsteps. The real answer is “Because I’m obscenely competitive, neurotically over-achieving, and...
My Book Celebration :)
So this past Sunday, November 6, 2011 was a big deal for me. Not just because it was National Orgasm Day, but because I got to check a BIG item off my bucket list- publish my memoir!
It took me 3 ½ years to write the book, but really I’ve wanted to be published my entire life- even as a young child. So it was literally a dream come true for me, and after I got in bed exhausted after an...
Official Press Release for "Fighting the Crusade...
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Memoir on Opening of West Chester Sex Shop to Launch on National Orgasm Day
West Chester, PA.: In 2008, Jill McDevitt opened her feminist sex shop (the only sex shop in the country owned by a degreed sexologist) in West Chester, PA. The resulting firestorm not only rocked the community, it made national news. Three years later McDevitt, now 26, has written the story...
Too Sexy For Halloween?
Halloween makes me sad. Every year I start out excited for a night of fun and dancing in sexy and creative costumes, and every year I am instead confronted with the negative socio-sexual quandaries that plague our world.
Tyler and I went naked. Not figuratively. Literally.
I thought it was very clever and I thought we looked hot! On night one, at first, everyone thought so too! We were the...
October 2011
8 posts
Page 69
A phone conversation with my grandmother that took place last night…
Gram: Can you write something special in my copy of your book at your book signing party? Me: Of course! I talk about you in my book so of course I’ll write something special for you. Gram: Ooh! What page am I on? 69? I want to be on page 69
Contact sexologist Jill McDevitt:
jill@thesexologist.org
...
Clit Injury and Other Old News
I have been so bad at blogging lately. Part of it is being busy. Part of it is that interesting things happen so quickly that by the time I’m about to blog about it something interesting happens that occupies my time and mind.
I’m so far behind to tell the stories now makes them lose their pizzazz. Old news. I’ve done two parties since I last blogged; one called “Sex: Am I Normal” and one called...
The Crusade Against Sex (the prudish social...
“Fighting the Crusade Against Sex”, the book, is in print! The crusade against sex, the term I use to describe the erotophobic movement to squash and repress ANYTHING related to sex, is still in full force. Let me explain.
MY BOOK ARRIVED IN THE MAIL!
I was SO happy! To see it in print, an actual book, in my hands, was surreal. And part of me thought as I held it, shit, I published my memoir at...
I HATE Vlogging
Let’s talk about how it came to be that the last THREE AND A HALF HOURS of my life were wasted on vlogging, also known as video blogging, also known as worse piece of shit thing ever.
I log into my youtube account today and am informed that my view count is such that they would like to start paying me. However, I don’t want ads on my current videos because I want them to look professional, but...
October is [Insert Sexual Issue Here] Awareness...
I’ve been slacking as a sexual rights advocate. I guess my therapy has worked because ever since I completed therapy for my vicarious trauma from talking/seeing/hearing/thinking/caring too much about rape and other sexual injustice and violence, you haven’t heard me blogging about the latest sex-related horror in the world. I guess this is a good thing since I spent all that time and money in...
7 Nights of Sex (Education)
A recap of the last 7 days of my life as a traveling sexologist:
Sunday, October 2, 2011
Place: West Chester University, West Chester, PA
Sponsoring Organization: Sorority
Topic: Safer and Sexy
Turnout: 58 people.
Highlights:
· It was my biggest turnout for a workshop ever.
· I always enjoy working with sororities- lots of fun.
Monday, October 3, 2011
Place: Temple University,...
The Female Condom
The new and improved female condom is being sold at Feminique. I’ve been telling people of the benefits:
Since it’s inserted vaginally, it gives the woman power and control over ensuring a condom is being used instead of relying on a partner.
Female condoms are non-latex and can be worn by anyone with a latex allergy.
One end of the condom hangs out of the body, which leads to speculation that...
September 2011
7 posts
"Can You Get a Shot of Them Humping?"
I have been INSANELY busy doing the edits for “The Crusade Against Sex: Subtitle No Longer The Pleasure Manifesto But Not Sure What It Is Yet” in preparation for it’s November 6 debut. I’ve also been busy concentrating this fall on promoting my sexuality workshops at colleges, so I’ve been very busy working with a videographer to film all my workshops and with a graphic designer to create campus...
Kama Sutra Positions 101 Party
The video promo for my Kama Sutra Positions 101 in-home party is complete! Check it out!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1BxTfT82qQ
3 parties down, 7 to go!
I really like this one! It’s very… unique. When I designed this party, I was a nervous about it and thought it wouldn’t work. I knew it’s a topic that people are interested in and would probably book me to teach them, but I thought...
Relax?
Lately I’ve been noticing my sexoholism has been out of control. I work work work work. And I like to do it, but when it’s time to eat, sleep, relax, take a shower, go for a walk, or do nothing, I have massive anxiety because I’m not working.
My body has decided no more, and I came down with strep thoat. And I feel mildly ok, I’m feeling at about 70%, not incapaciated, so...
A Night at the Male Strip Club
I had a “this is my life” moment this past weekend. I worked, teaching a 6pm Fellatio 101 party and since I had no 9pm party scheduled, I had plans to meet up with a friend for a quiet night in at her house. It was fun party (my job is always fun) but nothing out of the ordinary until I was packing up to leave.
Hostess: Where you heading after this?
Me: I’m meeting a friend in Philly.
Hostess:...
Review: My Mini Miracle Massager (aka The...
The box is annoying from a retail perspective because there are no hooks or way to hang it. The toy is oddly shaped. The motor is loud. However… this thing is my new FAVORITE!
Me: HOLY SHIT!
Tyler: What? Is it strong?
Me: Feel this.
Tyler: HOLY SHIT! Well… here’s the jackhammer you’ve been looking for.
This is really a jackhammer. It could probably break up cement.
The rounded tip is for clitoral...
The Difference Between a Prostitute and a...
For the third time today, someone, and by “someone” I mean a man, thought I’m a prostitute. So let’s chat about the difference between a prostitute and a sexologist, shall we, just to clear up any confusion.
Prostitute: One who solicits and accepts payment for sex acts.
Sexologist: A person who is an expert in the science of sexual behavior.
So to recap, a prostitute actually engages in sexual...
The Show, The Book, The Biz, The Boy: An Update
Recently it feels like nothing new and interesting is happening because all the things that were new and interesting a few weeks ago are still lingering. So I thought I’d take a moment to update you all on all the exciting things in my life that wait in limbo.
The Book
“The Crusade Against Sex: A Pleasure Manifesto” just underwent Round 1 of edits. I’m finding this process INCREDIBLY challenging....
August 2011
6 posts
Irene Blew Me
Remember that time I drove in a Hurricane to teach Orgasm 101 at a nudist resort? Yeah, that was a hoot!
The weather this weekend was challenging and I was trying to juggle my three different in-home parties in three different parts of the state as areas were evacuated, flights were delayed, and other messes.
All the hosts called to see if I wanted to cancel but I kept on trying to find a way...
Review: Lighted Shimmers LED Bliss Teaser
With a name like Lighted Shimmers LED Bliss Teaser and a tacky box, I did not have high hopes for this one. Not to mention, the pink plastic light-up jewel shaped vibrator looked like it should have been a Barbie accessory, not a sex toy.
However… when I tried the Lighted Shimmers LED Bliss Teaser, I found it *quite* delicious. Barbie can keep Ken, I’ll take this guy. It was fast...
A Glamorous Day in the Life of a Sexologist
The past week in the life of this sexologist has been kinda surreal. I was off from the boutique for 9 straight days (well, at least as much as a business owner can ever really be “off”) in order to finish my book. I’m happy to announce…. IT IS DONE!!!!! It took me 3 years and 13 days to complete it and I am so proud of myself. BFF George was very encouraging and said even if it’s a flop, even if...
Letters to the Future
Tyler looked at me as I checked my voicemail. I must have had an odd look on my face.
Tyler: Who is it?
Me: My ex-boyfriend.
Tyler: Oh? What did he say?
Me: He opened a letter to the future I wrote him 10 years ago when we were 15 and head over heals for each other, and apparently I wrote that if by the time he read the letter if we had broken up, no matter what came between us that he should call...
My 26th Year
Yesterday was my birthday.
It was a great day. Tyler woke me up at 8am with birthday cunnilingus. Now that’s a great way to start my 26th year!
Then I got showered and dressed to start my day and came out to find a card and candy from Carl (that the cat if you’re new to my blog), and in the kitchen a homemade breakfast. The day before Tyler asked me what I want for my birthday, and I...
The Emotional Cost of Speaking Out
I haven’t written in a while because I’ve been pissy, and I wanted to avoid long rambling bitch fests. But now that I’m calmer, I can explain.
This month, it became a requirement that starting in January 2013 all health insurers cover birth control without a co-pay. I think this is a wonderful thing. I think this is long overdue, and is still not good enough. Yesterday, New York City announced a...
July 2011
12 posts
A Feminist Wedding
Yesterday I attended only my third wedding ever. As someone who absolutely adores free booze, dancing to Motown and Doo Wop, and having an excuse to wear a pretty dress, I lament the fact that I, unlike most people my age who seem to have half a dozen weddings to attend every summer, have largely been missing out on this wonderful experience.
At this wedding, I learned two things:
I kick ass at...
My Only Taboo
Normal taboos do not apply to me. I’ve publically written about STDs, masturbating, mental health concerns, and host of other things that are completely and utterly taboo in polite society. But there is one forbidden topic that I am actually super uncomfortable talking about: money. I hate money and I hate talking about it even more.
I just spent 20 minutes writing a post about money and sexology...
Review: Total Euphoria
I’m cranky because this weekend was the pits. Friday sucked, Saturday was so-so, and Sunday was deplorable until late Sunday night when Tyler got home and had me lay on him and cry about my (for once, not rape-related) problems and then spooned me until morning. Boo!
Then I remembered- Oh shit! I have to masturbate!
Me: My sex toy review is due today!
Tyler: You have a masturbation...
When Hollywood (and Nudists) Come Calling
Sales yesterday were “abysmal”, but I otherwise couldn’t think of what to write about. I was going to scrap today’s blog but then I remembered yesterday morning, a member of a nudist resort came in asking if I’d be interested in doing a party with their organization. And yesterday evening, I had an hour long phone conference with an executive producer discussing my future as a TV show sexologist....
You Got Over Your Erotophobia- Except On This...
Before I even started my day at Feminique yesterday, I had an appointment. With a therapist. About my invasive rape thoughts.
This was a trial. For one, I was afraid it wouldn’t work. I used to think therapists were magical and could switch off my problems. Now I know they’re just humans like me, who happen to have some specialized training. Problem is, it’s very similar to my training so can any...
Is a Sexual Experience Worth... YOUR LIFE?
Saturday, sales were “fair”, although I can’t take credit because an employee was running Feminique while I was in school. School- now that’s a fun way to spend a beautiful summer Saturday afternoon!
Sunday Feminique is closed and from the comfort of my fabulous king size pillow-top bed, I checked my email (such a workaholic) before heading out to the 29th Annual Turks Head Music Festival in West...
And This Man Hasn't Proposed to You?
Thursday was uneventful and sales were “bad”. Friday was more interesting, and sales were “If sales were like this everyday, I would make an annual salary that is actually fair for someone with my drive, ambition, and level of education”. Sales are usually as such on days I have parties because I charge a fairer wage for my time than I do for sales products during the day at Feminique.
I didn’t...
Giving a Vibrator Presentation on a Military Base...
Wednesday was a fine day (falling a little behind on my “daily” posts already). On my sales scale as follows:
Abysmal
Terrible
Bad
Fair
Good
Great
Excellent
If sales were like this everyday, I would make an annual salary that is actually fair for someone with my drive, ambition, and level of education
If sales were like this everyday, I could retire early
Wednesday was a “I could have a fair...
What's a Sex Slip N' Slide?
I thought I’d try to start writing a daily update on the life of this sexologist, rather than a once weekly manifesto.
Here goes.
Yesterday I woke up late because I was sick so I didn’t get to work on my book. Not good seeing how I have only 28 days left to finish it. I did manage to get to my dentist appointment.
Dentist: You’re an actress, right?
Me: Sorta, I’m a sexologist.
Dentist: A what?
Me:...