A Day in the Life of a Sexologist

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#Inventory Day! #boxofsextoys #ilovemyjob #sexologist

#Inventory Day! #boxofsextoys #ilovemyjob #sexologist

I was not born yesterday. Please do not send me pictures of your penis under the guise of wanting “professional advice” about your size. Not that this is a service I provide, but if you had an actual problem that somehow required me to look at your penis, and you really wanted a *professional* interaction, you would inquire first about making an appointment for the use of my time, and only show photo of problematic penis after you were asked, not just send an unsolicited dick pic such that a photo of your genitals is the first thing I see when I open the correspondence. If you were concerned about an intestinal issue, would you make an appointment with a gastroenterologist, and provide a stool sample if recommended by the doctor (the *professional* way to proceed), or would you just drop off some turds on the doc’s front steps unannounced? Yeah, it’s like that. #sexologistproblems.

#tbt to that time I taught the steps for putting on a #condom using a body-sized condom and a student. My #sexed programs are at the intersection of informative and hilarious. Email jill@thesexologist.org to inquire about bringing me to your college!

#tbt to that time I taught the steps for putting on a #condom using a body-sized condom and a student. My #sexed programs are at the intersection of informative and hilarious. Email jill@thesexologist.org to inquire about bringing me to your college!

Here is the #logo for my new #sextoyline, #Hysteria! The top #GibsonGirl logo will likely be used on the website and packaging, and the bottom scroll logo likely for printed materials with less space for a full logo. Love it! #branding #vibrator #sextoydesigner

Here is the #logo for my new #sextoyline, #Hysteria! The top #GibsonGirl logo will likely be used on the website and packaging, and the bottom scroll logo likely for printed materials with less space for a full logo. Love it! #branding #vibrator #sextoydesigner

An hour into my first work day after a peaceful relaxing break and I am already shaking and enraged about things I forgot existed when I was on vacation, like people on facebook making light of sexual violence, and others jumping in accusing you of “attacking” them when you say “hey, making light of sexual violence isn’t cool”. I’m really starting to be done with social media. I think 10% of the reason my life last week was so peaceful was because I was on a tropical island, and 90% of the reason it was peaceful was I wasn’t on facebook, twitter, or tumblr. It’s beyond the point of being toxic.

I’m back!

I’ve been away for 3 weeks- first on a sex ed speaking tour, then on a much needed vacation to Jamaica, then for an out of state wedding.

I’m rested, relaxed, and ready to get back in to the daily grind. Stay tuned!

I’m quoted in #cosmo again this month, speaking the truth about #labia diversity, you know, as I do. #sexologist #drjill #cosmopolitan #sexpert #sexadvice #kaleycuoco @cosmopolitan

I’m quoted in #cosmo again this month, speaking the truth about #labia diversity, you know, as I do. #sexologist #drjill #cosmopolitan #sexpert #sexadvice #kaleycuoco @cosmopolitan

Apr 1

I just had a really frustrating and upsetting conversation in which a sexuality educator and counselor who worked with incarcerated people told me, publicly on Facebook, that inmates in her care openly discussed plans for beating and raping other inmates, but she didn’t intervene because she thinks they deserve it. 

I’m so beyond disgusted, like literally sick to my stomach.

I’m leaving for Jamaica in a few hours and so in the interest of self-care, and taking time for myself and my relationship, relaxing, and enjoying my trip, I have to shelve my anger and repulsion about all the implications of this person’s statements. But I’m putting it out there now as a reminder to myself when I return that I want to write a post addressing prison rape, and the gross ethical violation that is a sexuality counselor knowing about, and having power to stop, rapes and deliberately choosing not to. AHHHHHH!

I will be mostly unplugged for the next 12 days, save for the occasional vacation pics on Instagram. My handle is @sexdocjill if you’d like to check out my vaca photos this week.

Apr 1

It’s now April, which is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Every year on April 1 when I owned Feminique I donated a percentage of sales from the shop to Men Can Stop Rape. I’d like to continue with that tradition this year with my online store. 20% of all purchases from my website today will be donated to Men Can Stop Rape. (The tricky thing this year however is that I’m going on vacation tomorrow, so only orders in before 2pm EST will be shipped before I leave, so get your orders in early if you can).

UPenn had to cancel my workshop because they lost their funding, so my #sex ed speaking tour has officially come to a close. 5 days, 1,421 miles, 3 states, 4 universities, 6 presentations and 230 students learning about sex positivity and pleasure. Phew! It was an amazing trip but I am pooped, so I booked a trip to #Jamaica. Leaving in 3 days! #workhardplayhard #selfcare

UPenn had to cancel my workshop because they lost their funding, so my #sex ed speaking tour has officially come to a close. 5 days, 1,421 miles, 3 states, 4 universities, 6 presentations and 230 students learning about sex positivity and pleasure. Phew! It was an amazing trip but I am pooped, so I booked a trip to #Jamaica. Leaving in 3 days! #workhardplayhard #selfcare